22 Jan The Four Agreements: A life changing Journey
In the bestselling book The Four Agreements don Miguel Ruiz gives four principles to practice in order to create love and happiness in your life.
Adopting and committing to these agreements is simple, in theory. In actuality living and keeping these agreements may be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. The promise, if you do, is that your life can and will change. The premise of this book is recognising when you break these agreements and the stories that you tell yourself when you do (and how you justify them).
What are they?
The Four Agreements are:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Miguel Ruiz breaks the book down into sections where each of these agreements is discussed. He challenges, with raw honesty, the thoughts you will have in response to reading them. He forces you to reflect upon your own actions, behaviours, expectations and judgments and slowly takes you on a journey where you see the four agreements for the truths that they offer.
I don’t profess, for one minute, to have full embraced these truths. We are all perfectly imperfect after all. However, I am happy to share that where you can embrace them, they have the power to be hugely empowering. I recommend this book highly. It’s a quick read and an easy read. The hard part is finishing the book and then realising you might need to be very honest and open with yourself should you wish to realise the gifts the four agreements promise.