Self-Assessments: Sex Addiction


Sex addiction is a process, or behavioural, addiction and is characterised by compulsive participation in sexual activities including sexual acts and fantasies with or without partners, masturbation and pornography, to alter mood, escape problems, or manage uncomfortable feelings. Sex addicts come to depend on these sexual activities and fantasies to feel better in some way, and to experience cravings for them, just as happens with a substance addiction.

The goal of our sex addiction quiz is not to provide a definitive answer as to whether you or someone you care about is a sex addict. Rather it is an opportunity to raise your awareness about the impact that this sexual behaviour is having on your life, or the life of someone you care about, so that you can seek professional support, should you need it.

As you read each of the following statements take your time to think about the answer, then click on the button if you believe it applies to you. Only you will be seeing the results of this quiz so take the opportunity to be completely honest with yourself. To minimize or deny behaviours or consequences is one of the symptoms of addiction.

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  • Do you have concerns about, or have you tried to control, the amount and/or types of sexual activity you engage in?
  • Have you engaged in sexual practices that could be considered inappropriate (because of places, people or times)?
  • Do you believe that your sexual role is a key component of your self-identity and/or do you feel entitled to sex?
  • Have you had relationship difficulties as a result of your sexual activities, or do you blame relationship problems on your sex life?
  • Do you often feel preoccupied or distracted by your sexual thoughts, fantasies or activity?
  • Have you ever engaged in unsafe sexual practices placing you at risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections, or engaged in sexual activities that could be considered risky to either your health or your reputation?
  • Has your ability to relate to other people been impacted by at times by intrusive sexual thoughts or fantasies?
  • Do you sometimes use sex as a way of escaping uncomfortable feelings, or problems in your life?
  • Have you felt ashamed of, or guilty about, your sexual behaviours?
  • Have you begun engaging in sexual activities that you would not have previously considered? Has the range, risk and/or frequency of sexual activity that you engage in increased?
  • Do you spend considerable time in activities related to sex, such as cruising for partners, or spending hour's online visiting pornographic websites?
  • Have you ever made efforts to conceal the extent of your sexual activity from the people closest to you, or have you lied about your sexual activities?
  • Do you have ritualized sexual behaviours and/or are you engaging in sexual activities with increasing frequency?
  • Do you neglect important aspects of your life (e.g. family, work) as a result of the amount of time you spend thinking about or engaging in sexual activities?
  • Have you been in trouble with the law, or participated in illegal activities associated with your sexual behavior?
  • Do you often relate to other people in a seductive or flirtatious manner, or with underlying sexual innuendo?
  • Do you have trouble stopping your sexual activities despite resulting negative consequences such as broken relationships, financial or legal concerns, or potential health risks?
  • Do you feel restless and/or irritable when you are unable to engage in the desired sexual behavior?

South Pacific Private is here to help when you or someone you love experiences difficulties with addictions, trauma or with mental health concerns such as depression and anxiety.

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The goal of our self-tests is not to provide you with a diagnosis for yourself or for someone you care about. Instead, they are an opportunity for you to better understand how a behaviour might be impacting upon your life or the life of your family. Use these tests to enhance your awareness of what the problem might be. These tests should be answered honestly in order to provide accurate insight and are a chance for you to reflect upon the current situation.


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